Are you carrying past sorrows, regrets, resesntment or self pity with you? It took me many years to understand that by holding on to my ‘unhappy’ emotions I was making them stronger. I love this traditional Native American Story about the two wolves that reside inside each of us.
An elder Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me… it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
“One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt and resentment.
“The other wolf represents love, joy, peace, hope, truth, kindness, humility, compassion, and faith.
“This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.”
The children thought it over and then asked their grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The grandfather simply replied, “The one you feed.”
From the [tag]law of attraction[/tag] perspective, what you feed (or focus on) is important because whatever you think about is drawn to you: Wherever your thoughts dwell there is a certain energy. Once you are aware of this, you can ask: is this the energy I want to feed?
There are two strategies I know of that work well to refocus your energy:
- Forgiving the past. Sometimes that seems like the hardest thing in the world to do. But releasing painful past memories can happen very quickly.
- Focus on gratitude for all that life has brought you – the good and the not so good – because both are part of who you are today. As you focus on what is working well in your life, you attract more of that energy and there begins to be more in your life to be grateful for. Why not start a [tag]gratitude[/tag] journal today?
© Copyright Deborah Redfern, 2007. All rights reserved.
Here is an exercise to help you to get clear on what you really want to manifest in your life.
You might have worked with ‘top 10’ lists in the past. In the exercise, instead of your top 10 things you want, make a list of at least 101 things you would like to manifest. Get a notebook and write down the numbers 1 – 101, leaving a space next to each number to write down the thing you want to manifest.
Why 101? Because often the first 10 or 20 of the things we want — or what we think we want — are driven by our ego-minds. They may not be what our soul truly needs. When you make a list of lots 100 things you would like to manifest, the ego-mind fades into the background as it begins to run out of things it desires. Then the [tag]higher self[/tag] begins to emerge and the deeper soul desires are revealed. Many people find they begin to cast their net of desires wider, wanting things for other people, even people they don’t know. It is an interesting thing that begins to happen.
Now I am not saying there is anything wrong with wanting things for yourself. I will be needing a new vehicle next year and there is a certain car that keeps appearing to me. I would like something fuel efficient — probably a Hybrid. But here is the thing: Without taking time to really get clear on my soul desires I could manifest that car — but still feel unfulfilled, or I could try to manifest that car without being successful — and be dissatisfied.
When I do the “101 things” exercise I see that there are some potential conflicts. I have desires stronger than owning a new car. For example I have a desire to walk near the ocean front every day, but the only way to conveniently get there is to drive — and I don’t like to drive everyday. I want to walk most places I need to go, so living outside of the city near the ocean isn’t what I want either. Finding a place to live in the city within walking distance of the ocean and services is in alliance with what my soul really desires.
Putting my energy into manifesting that goal would bring inner simplicity to my life, since even with a fuel efficient car I’d still have to drive to get to the ocean. So I would probably not get to the ocean every day. There would also be inner simplicity in being free of expensive car payments and a long term commitment.
These are the types of decisions you might find yourself weighing when you get down to manifesting. When you are really clear about what you want, going about attracting it is much easier. On the other hand, if you find your ability to manifest isn’t working very well, it is probably because there is an inner conflict that you haven’t identified or addressed. Try the “101 things” exercise to learn more about what you really desire.
Clutter is natural and we all have it to some degree because by nature we are hunters and gatherers. Only at this point in our evolution as a species most of us are hunting for ‘treasures’ and gathering collections and mementos. The process of [tag]clutter clearing[/tag] is very important in any self growth or coaching process because who you are is not separate from your environment. You created your environment and everything in it tells a story about you.
Even if someone else did the decorating, you choose that person to be in your life so the environment is still about you. When you make changes in one part of your life and you look at the big picture (your environment as well and your thoughts and actions) the impact is so much greater. It can help you grow more quickly into your ‘best self’.
Our family has gone through drastic belonging reduction – by choice – when we moved across the country, and I continue to learn more about clutter nearly every day. Here are some of the things I’ve learned about clutter.
- Clutter clearing releases blocked energy.
- On its own without doing anything else, clearing clutter can change your life.
- Ideally clearing clutter is done slowly, one area at a time.
- You will never be totally finished with clutter — unless you live alone and/or are extremely disciplined.
- Once you’ve begun, clutter clearing is an ongoing process that is more about choices and mindfulness.
- Clutter is nothing to be ashamed of. It does not make you a bad person, but … see #7.
- Clutter can keep you from moving forward in your life.
- The things we gather have voices (ok, nothing spooky here, we are the ones who give them voice). They originally come from our own negative self talk or from the critical voices of family and friends and then become internalized and live in our subconscious minds. When we see the item the voice gets triggered. The trick is to consciously learn what the things around you are saying and whether they are supportive or a put-down.
- The things people say about you (or the things you tell your self) is not the whole truth. The other part is the way you interpret it. Often a criticism from someone is more about them than it is about you.
- You don’t have to get rid of something you love that has a negative voice, if you can successfully look at the memory and change it.