It has been a challenging week, one of those where the flow wasn’t there. Things took longer to do than usual, equipment failed, my brain wasn’t working too well with muddy thinking and my body wasn’t too happy with physical aches and pains. I decided to stop fighting it and to take a step back to see what was going on.
Early in the week, after finishing teaching an Advanced Interior Alignment™ course, I needed a few days of down time, so out came my paints and I played very happily with that for a day. I had little piles of painting stuff scattered around the dining room and living room when I was finished and I didn’t clear up because I thought I might want to paint again the next day.
On the weekend I went to a trade show and brought back pamphlets and a few treasures…which were dumped on the kitchen table and on chairs as well. Later in the week I worked on a clayart jewellery piece. Luckily that doesn’t take up much space, but the evening I worked on my new pendant, my clayart stuff was on the dining room table, most of which was put away at the end.
This pattern continued all this week until everywhere I looked there was something needed to be picked up, thrown out or put away. Yesterday was perhaps the ‘worst’ day in a long time, production wise. My computer crashed several times in the middle of a print job and I got a headache that would not leave. Finally, enough is enough! I was experiencing a bad case of negative house vibes! Time to Space Clear.
The first step in Space Clearing is physically cleaning the house. So last night I spent several hours putting it all right again and getting the energy settled down. I had actually been [tag]clutter clearing[/tag] this week as well, and perhaps I stirred up more than I realised, and it was definitely not helped by having the art projects around.
When you are cleaning and clearing things may get temporarily worse before they get better. Some people call this a healing crisis which is why I recommend that when people clear clutter, they go slowly. Like a lot of other practitioners, I sometimes need a reminder of why I give that advice. Knowing it exists doesn’t make one immune from the effects of a healing crisis! Getting zapped is a good reminder but it is not much fun.
This morning the energy feels much better. There are still a few tiny unfinished jobs, but just seeing my dining room table totally clear with a beautiful table runner on it is very settling. When I finish tidying up the rest of the house I will do a Space Clearing to settle and transform any remaining discordant energy. Physical cleaning of your home is a necessary first step in space clearing. No matter how strong your intent or how good a space clearer you are, settling the energy is very difficult if the house is messy.
© Deborah Redfern, 2008. All rights reserved.
Where does your clutter live? Under your bed? In the attic? The Basement?
According to feng shui principles, the places where [tag]clutter[/tag] takes root is meaningful but we are often not aware of what that meaning is. The following examples do not have to be true all the time of course, but something definitely worth thinking about as you clear your clutter.
Attic: Represents things hanging over your head, goals or dreams beyond your reach.
Bathroom: Plumbing is related to the emotions. Repressed emotions: feeling blocked, holding on to the past, people or events. Excessive emotions: weepy, verbal diarrhea or ranting.
Bedroom: Needing a great deal of privacy, hiding yourself or some aspect of your life from the world, being out of touch with your emotions or your inner self.
Basement: Suppressed emotions, unconscious beliefs, thoughts, patterns of behaviour, lack of foundation or roots in your life.
Cupboards: Upper cupboards, same for attic. Lower cupboards, same for basement.
Dining room: Feeling unnourished, un-nurtured, not taking care of your health, or lacking a sense of community in your life.
Kitchen: not fully allowing abundance, the harvest — what you have been working towards, into your life.
Living Room: difficult or absent relationships, feeling unconnected from loved ones and your community.
Under: (bed, cabinets, cupboards, etc.) Feeling bogged down.
© Deborah Redfern, 2008. All rights reserved.
Clutter-clearing is modern-day alchemy. It is one of the fastest ways to completely transform your life.
Denise Linn, Feng Shui for the Soul
There are different kinds of clutter: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Often these overlap – one type of clutter can cause another type of clutter.
Physical clutter is complex: it can be simply having too much to fit into your space, but that is not necessarily clutter. It is in the eye of the beholder, but if you do not use or love those possessions it is clutter. Some prime examples are clothes: ‘mistake’ purchases worn only once or never at all, things that don’t fit you at your current size, trendier items that are not currently in vogue or collections that got out of control.
- Physical clutter also shows up as paper — magazines and newspapers, and sometimes books.
- Junk drawer or places where you put all the stuff you don’t know what to do with, but can’t bring yourself to throw out.
- Things you are storing for others (could be the family heirlooms for example).
Mental clutter is the stuff you carry around in your head:
- judging thoughts like: “I told you so” or “you’ll never achieve that goal” or “who do you think you are?”
- endless to-do lists you are trying to remember.
- nagging thoughts like: I should exercise more often. I shouldn’t watch so much TV.
- decisions you have been putting off, jobs that are waiting to be done.
Emotional clutter is a little different from mental clutter though it can cause mental clutter. Emotional clutter is when we do not release emotions after the event is finished; it is holding on to the past. Some examples are:
- carrying regret, blame, and grievances from the past.
- being fixated on fears so that it holds you back.
- unfulfilled dreams.
- people or situations that have not been released.
- memories of how things used to be.
Spiritual clutter is when you do not honour and nurture yourself and can manifest as not really being present in your life. You might find yourself filling your life with mindless activities that do not bring you joy, holding on to belief systems that no longer serve you, or being in environments that are not supportive.
All of these types of clutter overlap to a certain extent though it is often not apparent until you begin the clearing, or the unraveling process. When you release clutter in one area of your life, it often has affect somewhere else. And when you make changes in your inner life – belief systems for example, it is valuable to physically change your environment.
Through coaching you can learn how to release these patterns so that you can step into your higher self, living fully in the present.
I thought this was interesting. In the book Why We Buy: The Science of Shopping, by Paco Underhill, he says women “become absorbed in the ritual of seeking and comparing, of imagining and envisioning merchandise in use. Then they coolly tally up the pros and cons of this purchase over that, and once they’ve found what they want at the proper price, they buy it.”
Okay, so maybe my shopping habits are ‘normal’ but I have two women friends who make up their minds very quickly and do not seem to do any comparison shopping. Their energy allocation seems to be in proportion to the activity. Perhaps I am just working with a different criteria (something like ‘inner simplicity’) and one of the questions I am subconsciously asking myself is, will this purchase make my life simpler?
Underhill goes on to say:
[women] illuminate how we human beings go through life searching, examining, questioning, and then acquiring and assuming and absorbing the best of what we see. At that exalted level, shopping is a transforming experience, a method of becoming a newer, perhaps even slightly improved person. The products you buy turn you into that other, idealized version of yourself.
I don’t know about ‘transforming experience’ though I suppose it could be (think ‘complete makeover’. I love those!) I can identify with the desire to find that ‘best self’ higher self idealized version of yourself. A few posts back I wrote about finding the perfect coat.
Why We Buy is an interesting read, though I find it to be more about how we shop rather than why. From reading it, I do appreciate though, why I buy most of my clothes in one particular store. It is merchandise itself of course, but also the layout of the store: the width of the aisles, the amount of room they’ve allotted for the fitting rooms, the fact that there are chairs for shoppers or their partners to plop down into and wait. There are even magazines available. There is more to this shopping business than we think; it is possible that experiences like mine have more to do with sensitivity to the environment. That makes sense.