Have you ever visited a different city or town and loved it so much you decided to go back again to recapture that memory — only to be disappointed? More often than not return visits are disappointing because each time is a totally different experience.
Every place has its own vibration – the energy and ‘feel’ of a place. Even different neighbourhoods in the same city have a unique vibration (so staying at a different hotel or resort in the same city can give your trip a totally different feel.) It is also true that the vibration of a city changes over time so that when you visit it again, the change is obvious, even though the people who live there may not have noticed. The same is happening in your own neighbourhood, town or city…visitors will notice changes more than you will. Most change is so gradual we do not notice. This does not apply to sudden changes, of course, such as trees that have been felled, or the damage following a fire or a violent storm.
In addition your personal energy field or vibration is also changing continuously so you can never really recapture a time, location or a feeling, even if everything seems on the surface to be the way you remember it.
You might also have had the experience of planning and waiting for a trip, all the while building it up and imagining every detail, so that the reality once you get there cannot compete with the image you have created. (My personal experience is that this is what can happen when you plan to experience something the second time. The second Cruise I eagerly anticipated did not live up to the first one I took, when all was fresh and new.) All of this puts an interesting spin on how we experience our holidays and vacations. Most of us go through life believing that we will have another chance to go back and do something ‘right’. Eckhart Tolle writes in A New Earth:
“People believe themselves to be dependent on what happens for their happiness, that is to say, dependent on form. They don’t realize that what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe. It changes constantly. They look upon the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn’t have or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have.”
If you are upset on arriving at your dream destination because it isn’t as you remembered it last time, or something has happened to ‘ruin’ things: perhaps your luggage is delayed or the accommodation is not what you expected, try to avoid the temptation to compare, or to tell yourself that you will have a perfect trip next time. I am not saying that we have to pretend all is well even when it is not, but instead to acknowledge and then let it go. The perfection is in how fully we are able to attend to the energy of the moment. Allow yourself to experience unique energy of the time and and place, which by nature can never be re-created in the same way again. Each moment in time and space is precious, because of its unique constantly changing energy vibration.
All of you want to do well. But if you do not do good, too, then doing well will never be enough. It is so easy to waste our lives: our days, our hours, our minutes. It is so easy to take for granted the color of the azaleas, the sheen of the limestone on Fifth Avenue, the color of our kid’s eyes, the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears and rises again. It is so easy to exist instead of live.”
~ Anna Quindlen, commencement address 2000.
Life has been throwing the bigger questions of life at me lately: Decisions about what path to take and whether decisions I have made are good ones. Actually if often feels to me more like riding the waves than choosing a path. One can ride a wave with grace and awareness, or be in for a bumpy ride. A bumpy ride is when instead of fully experiencing the wave you’ve been given, you spend your time looking at the other waves, wondering which one is better.
Looking at decisions: isn’t that often an impossible place to be? We can evaluate from afar, from a place of distance or time when we can be objective, but in the moment we just do not know. In other words, it is all about quality of life. What makes you feel healthy and whole? What are you tolerating because you belief you have to? After reading the address I felt more at ease with myself and willing to be present for my current ‘ride’.
You can read the full commencement address by Anna Quindlen here: http://www.cs.oswego.edu/~wender/quindlen.html
You can begin a simple feng shui of your home by observing the objects you have around you. All of the objects in your home have an effect on you. Each carry memories, associations and symbolism: emotions that can raise your energy up, bring you down, or be neutral.
Most of the time, you will not be consciously aware of the connections and symbolism because you are so used to seeing them. This is why having a feng shui practitioner is helpful — even feng shui practitioners often need the eyes of another practitioner to help them truly ‘see’. But for today, try this exercise. It is a simple but powerful one that will help you look at the objects around you with more conscious awareness.
All you have to do is walk through your home looking at each object, much as if you have been away for a long time and have forgotten what your home is like. There are two ways you can do this and both are equally valuable and will often give you different pieces of information. You can literally walk through your home, or you can go through your home in your imagination. When I took my Interior Alignment™ training, we ‘walked’ through our homes in our imagination. It was very useful to me as I was able to access information that I knew on one level but did not realize how much it changed the way I felt about my home.
As you walk though your home – either in person or in your imagination, take note of any memories and associations you experience as you look around and handle your belongings. It is very common for emotions to come up as you do this exercise. You might notice, for instance, that you feel really happy in some areas, while other areas feel sad or bittersweet. There may be a conversation going on inside your head, like nagging thoughts, or a to-do list.
Make a note of what you experience. These will be your feng shui adjustments. You may want to do immediately and others over a period of time. For me, it was how our front entrance felt unwelcoming. What bothered me most was the screen door which never worked properly. It was one of the first things I did when I came home from my feng shui training!
Simple…but one of the most effective feng shui techniques you can do.
Deborah Redfern, 2008. All rights reserved.
There are different kinds of clutter: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Often these overlap – one type of clutter can cause another type of clutter. Physical clutter can be having too many possessions to fit into the space you have available, but even if you have more space than possessions, especially if you do not use them regularly. Physical clutter can be clothes that no longer fit or are no longer in style, an out of control paper trail, the junk drawer items which threatens to take over the entire cabinet, gifts you received which were unsuitable and unused, things you are storing (such as family heirlooms)…and the list goes on. If it takes up space, it is (potentially) physical clutter.
Mental clutter is the stuff you carry around in your head. It can be found in judgmental thoughts such as a mental to-do list – the things you should do. It can be self-criticizing scripts that run through your head — the gremlin that sits on your shoulder saying “I told you so.” It can also be decisions you have been putting off, jobs that are waiting to be done,
Emotional clutter often comes from holding on to the past. It is in regrets, holding on to past hurts and grievances, anything that holds you back such as fears, people or situations that have not been released. Emotional clutter can also be unfulfilled dreams.
Spiritual clutter is when you do not honour and nurture yourself and can manifest as not really being present in your life. You might find yourself filling your life with mindless activities that do not bring you joy, holding on to belief systems that no longer serve you, or being in environments that are not supportive,
All of these types of clutter overlap. When you release clutter in one area of your life, it often has affect somewhere else. And when you make changes in your inner life – belief systems for example, it is valuable to physically change your environment.
The closets in your home can represent all types of clutter because closets are collecting points for all kinds of things. Depending of the kind of closet, it could be items used daily, once a year — or never. Clutter in closets is often a metaphor for the parts of your life you keep hidden away — things that are private, hidden away, or secret. Items pushed to the back of closets can represent things you don’t want to deal with.
Today choose one closet,or even one shelf of a closet and sort through it. Take everything out and sort through what is stored in there.
Notice any thoughts, emotions, or memories arise while you sort and clear. If these items had a message for your soul, what would it be? What meaning do these items have for you? Clean and clear the area thoroughly and put back only things you use and love. Have some boxes and bags handy for the items that you will not keep or that need to be stored elsewhere in your home.