Can we Boomers beautify? I think so. We can do it in our own way. Like many other boomers, I grew up with a back-to-earth mentality and ambitions of homesteading: Harrowsmith was on my night table as exciting reading material! We learned early on that it takes more than one person and my husband worked full time, so we never had the homesteading experience. I relate this only so you can see that ‘nature girl’ is where I’m coming from. Well, not just nature girl. I do okay in the city too. But, the truth of the matter is that I’ve spent most of my younger years working at home and I never got the habit of putting makeup on every day.
I am also blessed with good skin. This is my own assessment: I am sure a professional would see plenty of things to ‘fix’. My evaluation of good skin is it is clear. I’m sun sensitive which means I almost always have a hat on, or sunglasses, so I don’t have a lot of sun damage.
Now, at 60, I am seeing changes in the mirror. At certain angles and under certain lights, I see the face of my crone years. I am not talking about the crows feet and laugh lines. Those I consider part of my character. I am talking about the lines along my cheek bones, and the skin that wants to go south. It is shocking and fascinating at the same time to see these glimpses of the future, and it makes me wonder which is my real face. Is the one in my home mirror false and the sagging one what everyone else sees?
When we get to this stage in life, there are a couple of options. One option is to get anti-aging serums and/or procedures. Another option is to let nature takes it’s course. Another option is to have a bit of fun with it. Maybe, a boomer in her 60s can embrace aging by wearing some makeup to enhance, and enchant – even if it is only myself – because what I think about me, matters. Looking at myself without a bit of makeup on, sometimes I look tired. That’s not the way I feel inside. At 60 I am excited by possibilities and the way I look could reflect that. I am ready to boomer beautify!
With this in mind I saw an advertisement for pro-aging makeup – Boom! by Cindy Joseph. It explains that as we age, we need to stay away from powdery and chalky products that settle into those lines, and use creamy and transparent products.
Cindy Joseph was on my radar for a long time through her modeling career. I didn’t know her name, but I adored the photos of a beautiful long-silver-haired woman. Cindy Joseph was was a makeup artist, then a model, and now a cosmetic designer. Her website advertises “a pro-age cosmetic line for women of every generation.” I really wanted to try the products and Cindy Joseph company generously sent me the Boomstick trio and Boomsilk lotion to review.
I was ready to review them five minutes after I put them on my skin for the first time, but I’ve held off to really get to know the products, because I haven’t used blush or eye makeup for a very long time. I’m more of an lip gloss and eyeliner and go kind of person. And now, even if I did want to use something to brighten up skin which hasn’t seen much sun in six months, knowing about those deep lines I glimpse has made me wary of whatever I use looking unnatural. I am also sensitive to products with fragrance. Boom! products have no added fragrance that I can detect. It does have a slight bees wax/olive oil smell which I don’t mind. So, without further ado, here are the products and how I’ve been using them.
The product which I thought I’d use least, I’m using every morning on my face, neck, and upper chest. The best part of this product is the ingredient list:
“Ingredients: BOOMSILK contains only the most beneficial ingredients and nothing more: Purified water, organic extra virgin olive oil, beeswax with propolis and pollen, raw Pupekea wildflower honey, and d-alpha Vit E.” Source
On my skin it leaves a slight shimmer after I put it on similar to using olive oil directly on my skin, but in a better, dewy feeling way (note: my skin tends to be on the dry side.) The shimmer eventually fades but the dewy feeling remains. For a week I tried using Boomsilk in the morning and at night but I found that was too much for my skin. An additional dab on my lips at night is perfect.
Around my eyes, I have learned that for me to just put it on my brow bone and not my lid. When I did that I got itchy eyes (but my eyes are crazy sensitive so it may just be me) and it is also easy to apply too much. As the website says, a little goes a long way. I haven’t used it as a whole body moisturizer because my skin doesn’t really need it.
I am curious to find out how this project will feel in the summer, but for the winter it feels gorgeous.
Boomstick Glo is a solid version of Boomsilk with the same ingredient list as above. I carry this in my bag and use it as lip balm throughout the day, and you can use it for spot moisturizing. I like that I can carry only one product. It would be great though if it also came in a lip balm size as well, to slip into a pants pocket. My lips feel great and I think it is a better choice than anything else I’ve been using.
Boomstick Color is an all-in-one sheer cosmetic stick that works on all skin tones. I use it as to highlight my cheekbones and lips. It looks good on my lids too. The best results I’ve had for my lips is by using a lip brush. When I just apply it with my fingertip the product doesn’t seem to last as long and my lips feel more on the dry side. However a brush gives an even and thicker coating which lasts as long as any other lip tint I’ve tried (and my standard is Burt’s Bees grade).
Like any other cosmetic that is tinted, the ingredient list is long, and you can look it up here. What I like about this product, especially on my cheeks, is that my freckles show through. It doesn’t look (to me, anyway) like I have a product on my face. I just look healthy and definitely not tired looking. The lip is a little bolder for day time (for me) though I think it looks good.
…subtle, sheer, pearlescent stick adds natural sheen for day and luminous glow for evening. Source.
At first I applied it as a highlighter with Boomstick Color. (I have it on my brow bone in the photo above with the red lip.) Then I tried it on the inner corner of my eyes.
Then I got wild with it and am using it on its own for a day look, on my cheek bones, temple and lips. I like the effect on my lips (remember 60s frosted lips? That is a look not everyone call pull off.) This, to me, feels like just the right shade of a natural pink and just enough glam and fun.
You can purchase all products separately or as kits. The three Boomsticks can be bundled (Boomstick Trio) and come in a gauze pouch. It it a better value purchasing the bundles. If I had to choose just one, I’d get Boomstick Colour because of it’s versatility. Here is a short video from Cindy Joseph on choosing which product to start with.
To sum it all up, although I’ve called this post Boomers Beautify, beauty by conventional standards isn’t something I am aiming for. (I like alliteration, what can I say?) For beauty you have to consider the definition. Inner beauty, I say yes. Some current fashion versions of beauty, I say, is a hard thing to live up to and one that has made many sisters feel ‘less’. What I love about Boom! and Cindy Joseph, is if you visit her website you will see all kinds of women, glowing with confidence. And isn’t that what we want? That to me, is beautiful.
Boom! is most everything I wanted it to be, with a moisturizer as natural as you can get, and a one-stick product (or two) that satisfies my desire to give mother nature a little boost. (My wish list is pocket sized products for on-the go and no need to carry a purse).
To be perfectly frank, I’m having more fun with cosmetics than I ever thought I would.
Disclaimer: this is an unsolicited review of Boom! products. I contacted the company to see if I could purchase samples for review and I was generously sent full size products which has allowed me to really take my time and test the products.
For me ‘downsizing’ is a good thing. It can be an opportunity to get more clarity about what fits the time and place you are in life because, “the only thing that Is constant Is change” (Heraclitus). What suits you changes over time, and there is no need to drag the past with you.
In the boomer circle, some of the main reasons women downsize their closet are as follows.
1. Moving House
My experience with a living space downsize has been that the smaller the digs, the higher the incentive to get current with what is needed and used.
I lived in a large house and my possessions ‘crept’ to fill all available space.
Moving to a smaller home or apartment makes it more challenging to find places to store ‘extras’, when there is only one bedroom, no attic, garage or basement as a convenient storage space. (Out of sight = out of mind – can you relate to this?)
2. Changing your Occupation
Personally I don’t like the word ‘retirement’ but it is true that changing what you do everyday will happen at some point. If the ‘downsizing’ is a big enough change, chances are good that you’ll need different clothes.
Decades of being self-employed and then going back into a corporate environment was challenging. It took me a while to figure out what to wear and still feel like me. I now have a more polished and grown up wardrobe that is in keeping with my values – mainly that I can move freely.
Whether you are leaving a job, changing a job or stepping down from going to a work place everyday, you may find that what you’ve worn for many years no longer suits you.
3. Having a Smaller Footprint
This is more about a desire to live deliberately with less (perhaps less of everything and not just clothing.) People of all ages can express a desire to life with less, and, rather than label it, I believe it comes from a desire to closely examine your values and find a way of expressing them.
The Gains of Downsizing
What I have gained from downsizing my closet is time, peace of mind, freedom and clarity.
With fewer clothing choices, I don’t have to think more than a few seconds about what to wear. With carefully chosen items, things go together with also reduces decision fatigue.
Peace of Mind and Freedom
There is peace of mind and freedom from rejecting the overt and subliminal messages about who we could, and should, be. I want to get off the advertising treadmill and do something else with my time than obsess over being fashionable.
Potentially there is financial freedom in downsizing your closet. It is only a potential though, because you could spend the same amount of money on fewer high quality items. A small, carefully selected collection of clothing can give you excellent value for your money.
A lot of women I talk to have done ‘shopping therapy’ for most of their adult lives and are questioning
the idea of shopping as recreation. The pleasure is short lived and the results have to be lived with for, potentially, a long time. It is often an outing with friends, about the thrill of the hunt and finding that great bargain, and about treating ourselves because we are ‘worth it’. There is freedom in saying no to shopping as a fun activity.
Although my closet is small, what I have gives me a lot of options. It makes me extremely aware of how little I really need. Every three months I pull together a Project 333. This is where you create seasonal capsule wardrobes. The number of combinations that can be created with a small number of clothing is impressive. To see how many combinations I created with summer with 10 items of clothing read my article Tiny Wardrobe Magic: 40 Outfits from 10 Pieces.
At the end of the season, seeing what was worn frequently and what got little wear is apparent. Sometimes there is a good reason (that sweater for spring and a few cooler summer days didn’t see much wear.) Sometimes though, the reason I didn’t wear something s because I only thought I needed it.
And you know, that’s okay. There isn’t a test at the end and the person who stuck to their capsule wardrobe the best doesn’t win. It is about living living more consciously. We can reject the marketing messages were are surrounded with. Did you know that fashion marketing began in the Flapper era of the1920s?
I’m no stranger to doing a capsule wardrobe: it is how I’ve packed for trips for years. I’ve been a fairly light packer all my life and could pull out my 4 or 5 time-tested outfits and put them in my suitcase with no problem. The problem was the rest of my closet because after taking my capsule out, you could barely notice that anything was missing from my closet.
It came to a point where I began to ask myself, what is wrong with the rest of the clothes in my closet, and, more importantly why do I still buy more? The closet de-cluttering sessions I did regularly worked only temporarily and, tired of doing the same thing with the same results, I heard about Project 333 and decided to give it a try.
Project 333: a Capsule Wardrobe with a Difference
A capsule wardrobe is a minimalist approach to getting dressed. Project 333 takes seasonal differences into account. It is a capsule wardrobe for 3 months (usually following the change of seasons) with 33 items.
From doing Project 333 (from Be More With Less) I learned that the outfits I was packing for a trip was my real wardrobe, taking seasonal differences into account. I don’t really need more than the half a dozen tops/t-shirts, 2-3 sweaters/jackets, and a few different pants and dresses plus outerwear and shoes, and having more than than makes my life more difficult.
What goes into your Project 333? Everyday clothes for work or after, outerwear, shoes, jewellery and accessories. Not included is underwear, sleep wear, things you wear around the house (like for gardening and cleaning), and workout clothing. Courtney suggests wearing workout clothing only for exercising and gardening clothes just for gardening. Everything else is put away, out of sight until the next round of Project 333.
I’ve taken other courses on capsule wardrobes and minimal wardrobes, but found that doing Project 333 is much deeper than finding the season’s pivotal pieces in the right colours, or just decluttering. It is about finding what works for YOU. If are feeling overwhelmed by your wardrobe decisions, Project 333 is a great way to learn more about yourself.
Upcycled clothing: read sustainable fashion, second hand rose, re-used, or ‘thrifted’ clothes – are you a fan? I am, and one of the main reasons for that is my health. (Another reason is this.) Usually upcycled clothes have ‘broken’ the dyes, pesticides and other chemicals used in the manufacturing process. But when the garment has odours from the previous owner, the gain isn’t huge.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m talking about ‘clean’ smells. Sometimes there is perfume on the garment, but often that scent is coming from laundry detergent and fabric softener. They can be difficult to remove even after multiple washing in fragrance-free laundry products.
Ways of getting rid of fragrance residue in upcycled clothing
Depending on the fiber content and how scent-saturated your upcycled clothing is, you may have to try a few of the following suggestions on your upcycled treasures. Keep in mind that if you are dealing with a delicate fabric, none of these options may be suitable and I’d take it to a specialist cleaner. I would also ‘escalate’ as needed, i.e. if sun and fresh air didn’t work, I’d try the soaks.
The scent of clothing hung outside to dry is wonderful, and it can remove odours! The first thing I always try is hanging the garment outside. About as low tech as you can get, UV rays break down the chemicals that coat the fibers. This also works on new clothes that have a strong dye scent. There is a possibility that there may be some sun fading so it is a judgment call.
Soak the garment in vinegar overnight, (or use a mixture of vinegar and borax). Rinse and dry, repeat if needed.
*In a sealed container add charcoal briquettes (plain – not ‘easy-start’ which contain lighter fluid!) and the contents of a box of baking soda. Add the clothing and let it sit for at least a week.
Wash with an additive
*Use a peroxide based laundry detergent to oxidize fragrance residues in the fabric. Or, some people recommend adding about a cup of vinegar in the washing machine along with your regular detergent. However, it appears that vinegar causes rubber hoses in the washing machine to wear out more quickly so I just thought I’d mention this warning.
* I have not tried these so I can’t say how well it works but I really like the dry baking soda and charcoal idea.
* Some people recommend a baking soda soak (I have used about a 1/2 cup baking soda in my washing water) but it could ruin the fabric. Baking soda doesn’t fully dissolve, which you know if you’ve ever cleaned your sink with baking soda paste – and it is abrasive.
The way I see it, perfume-stinky upcycled clothing is unwearable for me. If I ruin it getting the scent out, so be it: it is usually a low investment I am talking about.
But if your upcycle find is something precious or delicate, it might be a good idea to contact a company that removes odours professionally. There is a time for DIY and a time for calling in the experts!
Wearing restrictive clothing is related to a host of health problems. A couple of weeks ago I posted on my Facebook page that I changed into another outfit before noon. There wasn’t anything wrong with what I had on, except I was in discomfort. There is a very good reason for it: wearing restrictive clothing around your waist (waistbands, belts, shape-wear) and rib cage can cause damage. Read more here.
I’ve become that person I said I would never be: the one who lives in pants with elastic waist bands. Here’s what is happening when you feel those ‘I can’t wait to get home and take off my bra’ moments.
Tight waists displace your internal organs.
Restrictive clothing (and sucking in your belly) displaces your internal organs either upward or downward. This increases the pressure in your abdomen, and as a continual habit, the pressure can cause the tissue (fascia) that joins one group of muscles to another, to thin and tear. Upwards pressure displaces the stomach and intestines against the diaphragm. Downwards pressures pushes the intestines against the pelvic floor muscles, and in women against the uterus. Some of the complications of upward pressure are hiatal hernia, and downward pressure uterine, bladder and rectal prolapse and diastasis rectii.
You can also get bladder and vaginal yeast infections (‘foundation’ compression under garments) and constipation.
These are the prop jeans from ‘The Sisterhood of Traveling Pants’. If only there were such a thing!
As a teen I lived in jeans: the real, non-stretchy ones. These days I rarely find a brand of jeans that fits the way they used to. What happened? Has the fit actually changed, were they always uncomfortable and has my tolerance level changed? Sadly, magic traveling pants do not, in fact, exist.
Most of today’s jeans have lycra in them, so they should fit better, right? But have you put on a pair of jeans with lycra in them and been shocked said pants now show every ripple, and cellulite you didn’t know you had? Now we are told we need to wear lycra undergarments to cover that up. Wearing something like Spanx now means instead of pressure around your waist, you have it all over your belly. Don’t trade in your stylish jeans that fit for underwear that is slowly strangling you from the inside out!
The pain is real.
Tight waists restricts blood flow to your internal organs which means they get less oxygen, which means your tissues are starved and cells start dying off. This is what is causing the pain.
The less blood supply you have, the less oxygen your organs get, and as a result you get poor lymphatic drainage. If your lymph is not draining it creates a back up of waste products, which creates more pain.
Tight bras affects your ability to breathe, and more.
You know those days when you come home and the first thing you do is take off your bra and get into PJs? That is your
Restrictive clothing affects how you breathe (shallow), cause nerve damage, give you heartburn due to stomach being displaced.
I have acquired a very low tolerance for restrictive clothing and uncomfortable clothing. Now I am sympathetic to those people I said I’d never become.
If you think the discomfort from wearing binding clothes is a price you have to pay for fashion, you might want to rethink your priorities. I am less tolerant of uncomfortable clothing because I’m healthier and more tuned in to changes in my body as a result of not wearing constrictive pants. Through practicing Restorative Exercise I became aware that I was sucking in my belly almost all the time. Once you’ve felt a relaxed belly it is hard to go back to wearing constrictive clothing. It is just so freeing.
My advice? Go with the flow and let your belly be free. If it is to be a choice between fashion or killing off my own cells, so-long fashion, hello oxygen. And here is a source for some exercises that will get you back in tune with what a free body feels like. And here is a post I wrote on moving your rib cage.
Well into our second year of living in a much smaller space, we’ve decided that our ‘this will do for now’ approach needed to be reviewed.
Even though we have scaled back several times, the furniture we kept was re-purposed, too big for the space and encouraged our hoarding tendencies. I also realized that we do not have things which go together, stored together.
For example our TV is sitting on an oak chest (making it very difficult to get anything out of the chest, by the way) while our movies are in a bed-side table re-purposed as an end table. So we don’t watch our movies and probably we do not need anything that is being stored in the oak chest. Right now it is just a place for things to be put away and forgotten about. We also ended up with these two pieces which kept some office supplies and books, but contained, frankly, too much junk.
Although the goal of minimalism is to have less stuff, I don’t think there is anything inherently wrong with replacing things with those that are more functional and beautiful. We gave away the larger dresser on the right, and the smaller dresser is (temporarily) in the bedroom.
We replaced it all with this sleek setup from Ikea (Hemnes) that holds our greatly reduced office supplies in the cabinet with the solid door, while more decorative things are in the glass upper portion. I really wanted a lighter feel and this is white stained pine.
All the movies, music and a considerable number of work-related CDs and DVDs are in the drawers below the television. The best part of this is that I don’t have any other hidden stashes. What we have is out on display, and we can better appreciate the fewer treasures we choose to keep without going through the stress of trying to find things when nothing is edited and organized.